wasn't sure what to expect when I first joined eHarmony. When I first
read my Personality Profile I said, "No, that's not me." But as I
started looking at the types of men I was being matched with who I knew
could be good with me I began to realize that my profile was very much
me. It was surprising to think eHarmony knew me better than I knew
myself in some aspects. At the same time, it made me able to trust in
Aaron was one of my first matches, and by reading
his profile I was able to figure out if he was the type of person that
would be good for me. As we communicated back and forth I began seeing
that I could trust the process, and became more comfortable with it,
and when we had our first date, it all made sense.
just seemed so natural when we met; we could just be ourselves. I think
when I first met him I knew I was in love with him, and it was weird
because it happened so fast and I questioned it. As we spent more
time together, that feeling just got stronger and stronger.
dating other people not introduced by eHarmony, it’s like you’re not
sure what you’re going to expect, so you sort of learn as you go, and
sometimes it's not always information you want to learn is there's many
incompatibilities after investing so much time. But in our case, it
just seems like the more we know each other, the more things that we
have in common, and the more we’re more accepting to each other, too.
The similarities we share are interesting. Even though we come from
different geographic areas, we have similarities in the experiences we
had growing up. Just finding out that we share these has made our bond
Getting to know Aaron was easier than
other relationships I've had. As we progressed, our commonalities
helped us to build such a solid trust in each other, so we didn't have
to worry about a lot of the things other couples coming together have
to worry about. I could just love him for who he was. We both had
challenging pasts full of relationship hurts, too, but going through
the process, we learned to trust each other. That's where the
compatibility came in. I love him a lot and I think a part of it
comes from having gone through the journey to meet each other. Now as
we continue that journey into what becomes our future together, I am
thankful for the experience of eHarmony bringing us together.
had tried two years of trying different online dating sites and found
that the way people were putting themselves up there cheapened the
experience into a search engine for pictures and catchphrases. The way
people advertised themselves wasn't always an accurate representation
of who they really are. I heard that eHarmony was different and was
interested in trying it out.
When I saw
Caroline's profile I noticed that she had all of the things I was
looking for. Her beautiful smile also really drew me in, so I began
communication with her. She was definitely someone I was excited to
hear from and wanted to talk with more. I had been communicating with
some matches in Open Communication, but we'd run out of things to say.
With Caroline, it just got more and more exciting. I looked forward to
getting her next message. I checked every day to see if she had sent
something back, but Caroline took her time responding to the questions
we sent back and forth. I was still very excited to find out what her
responses were. After communicating for awhile online we had several
phone conversations, and each time we interacted we realized how much
more we had in common. The more we discovered these compatibilities,
the more exciting it got.
actually late to our first date because I underestimated how much time
it would take for me to get where we agreed to meet. Thankfully, she
waited for me and understood that I was genuine. What struck me
immediately was that she was even more beautiful in person than she was
in her photo, which is usually opposite of what you might find on other
Caroline had all of
the things I wanted in a woman, but I had experienced past
relationships that were bad for me, so I wanted to be cautious. We
actually went to couples' counseling just to make sure that we were
compatible. The more we talked in those sessions I knew she was the one
for me. Right in the middle of one of the sessions I looked over and
realized she was the one. I personally don’t believe in soul mates,
but I do feel that Caroline and I are compatible and can make our
marriage work. I am very happy to be with her for the rest of my life.
The core of our relationship success is our compatibility in
self-awareness that makes us able to work on any issues that come up,
and to me that is the foundation of marital success.